How Long Does it Take to “Recover” from a Divorce?

by Norris Law Group on June 20, 2014

How Long Does it Take to “Recover” from a Divorce?Susan Pease Gadoua, L.C.S.W. writes in Psychology Today that she hears this question more than any other in her practice from divorced or divorcing people. While her response largely centers on the idea that “it depends,” Gadoua encourages her clients to consider a series of questions as they seek to find their own answer, including (but not limited to):

  • “How long were you with your ex-spouse?”
  • “How good was the relationship?”
  • “How committed were you to your spouse?”
  • “Were you surprised by the divorce?”
  • “Do you have children together?”
  • “Are either you or your spouse involved in a new relationship?”
  • “What is your personality/age/socio-economic status, etc.?”

Once you have answered these questions, Gadoua suggests that you continue by doing the following:

  1. “Ask for help & let help in.”
  2. “Talk about your grief with others.”
  3. “Get as much information as you can about the divorce process.”
  4. “Face each obstacle as it arises.”
  5. “Let others know when you’re not feeling well.”
  6. “Allow your feelings to come to the surface.”
  7. “Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel.”
  8. “Accept your new reality and move on when it’s appropriate to move on  (this doesn’t mean you have to like it!).”
  9. “Have trust/faith that things will work out.”
  10. “Be willing to make mistakes (mistakes are going to happen no matter how well prepared you are – it’s just part of the process.”

Attorney Graham Norris and his associates at the Norris Law Group serve the residents of Utah County and throughout Utah in the area of asset protection. Contact them today at 801-932-1238 or online for a free consultation.

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