Five Things All Married Couples Should Avoid

by Norris Law Group on April 3, 2014

angry-coupleOn March 19, 2014, the Deseret News reprinted an article from Family Share that suggested five actions that married couples should avoid at all costs, as they can have a very negative effect on a marriage.

These actions include:

Disrespecting your spouse. Name calling, cursing or even raising a hand to your spouse is not acceptable—although some couples appear think that these are appropriate ways to “get a point across.” Talk to one another rather than hurling insults back and forth. Civilized, honest conversations are critical to a marriage.

Taking your spouse for granted. Some couples seem to think that since they are already married, each spouse is just “expected” do perform certain actions. It doesn’t always work that way. If and you’re your spouse does something for you, be sure to thank him or her openly for being so considerate.

Interrupting your spouse during a conversation. Interrupting your spouse while he or she is talking is a clear sign that you aren’t really interested in what your spouse is saying. Frankly, such behavior is impolite and inconsiderate. Allow your spouse the time to talk, and listen to your spouse in return. If you must interrupt, be sure to do so politely (and rarely).

Speaking negatively about your spouse to others. It’s typically not a good idea to complain about your spouse outside of your marriage—even to family or friends. Doing so shows others know you have very little or no respect or admiration for your spouse—or regard for your marriage, for that matter. The old adage, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all” may be the best policy. If you really feel the need to complain about your spouse, do so to a professional therapist or member of the clergy—in private.

Arguing in front of the children. Children absorb everything they see and hear. If your children hear you arguing with your spouse, it will invariably affect them. At its best, marriage should be about respect, love and support. Do your best to present a “united front” to your children.

Attorney Graham Norris and his associates at the Norris Law Group serve the residents of Utah County and throughout Utah in the area of divorce and family law. Contact them today at 801-932-1238 or online for a free consultation.

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