Can Your “Facebook Life” Affect Your Private Life?

by Norris Law Group on October 3, 2014

Can Your “Facebook Life" Affect Your Private Life?This week, we have been taking a close look at eight Facebook behaviors and trends that Herb Scribner of the Deseret News suggests may lead to problems in a marriage—and maybe even to divorce. We started by asking how Facebook may actually harm a marriage, then considered how time spent on social media can take you away from real-life relationships, how Facebook “likes” can hurt the ones you love, and how Facebook “friends” may not actually be that friendly. In this final installment, we’ll look at how you set up your Facebook profile can affect your marriage.

  1. “You didn’t do a good job with your privacy settings.” A solid marriage is based on trust and the ability to be open and honest with your spouse. But Facebook and other social media sites make it possible—and even easy—for people outside your marriage to “see what you’re all about.” Scribner cites and NBC News report noting that privacy is a major concern for Facebook users, since Facebook posts may be subject to scrutiny by friends and even the public at large.  Scribner says that married couples should discuss Facebook posts that are open for public viewing, citing one example in which a source told Deseret News National that his wife shared that their child started on walking with her Facebook friends even before telling him. This led to a very difficult conversation between them. Through Facebook, people may find out things about you and your private life before your spouse learns of them, which can be a sign that trust is an issue in your marriage.
  1. “Your Facebook photo isn’t right.” This may seem a little silly, but impressions do matter. Your Facebook profile picture says a lot about you and how you want the world to see you. Scriber refers to a report in The Atlantic that states that a Facebook profile is measured by the amount of engagement it receives (likes, shares, comments, etc.). But if you post an unattractive or silly picture as your “public face,” your spouse may feel embarrassed and even pressured to ask you to remove it.

Do you think Facebook and other social media can help or hurt a marriage? Feel free to share your thoughts in the Comments section below.

Attorney Graham Norris and his associates at the Norris Law Group serve the residents of Utah County, UT and throughout Utah, Wyoming and Idaho. Contact them today at 801-932-1238 or online for a free consultation.


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