10 Lies that Lead to Divorce, Part 2 (of 2)

by Norris Law Group on November 12, 2013

10 Lies that Lead to DivorceIn a CBN.com article based on her book Divorce Proofing Your Marriage, Dr. Linda Mintle suggests ten specific lies which can be devastating to any marriage, along with strategies to deal with these lies should they arise—and how avoid them in the first place. The following is Part 2 of a two-part blog series on this topic. Part 1 is available here.

Lie #6: A more traditional marriage will save us.

Sometimes, gender roles and responsibilities can get a bit confused within a marriage. Linda Mintle reminds us that God’s intention for marriage is gender equality, and suggests that spouses consider the Bible verses which offer guidance about how spouses should interact and relate to one another: with mutual submission, respect, honor, empowerment and empathy.

Lie #7: I can’t change–this is who I am: take it or leave it.

Dr. Mintle says that you have a choice: do things your way, or do things God’s way. Married couples who wish to emulate Christ must exhibit the willingness to look at their own behavior and aim to behave in a more Christ-like way. Linda Mintle posits that “[couples] can change but it requires desire, obedience and Holy Spirit driven power.”

Lie #8: There’s been an affair. We need to divorce. 

Linda Mintle says that while extramarital affairs are definitely a serious matter and can bring tremendous damage to a marriage, the marriage may not be “beyond repair” if both spouses are willing to try to rebuild the relationship. But this must involve a commitment to stop the affair(s), repentance, forgiveness. Once the covenant of marriage has been broken, it is not easy to repair, but it may be possible.

Lie #9: It doesn’t matter what I do: God will forgive me.

On the contrary; what one does matters to God very much. God promises all of us that He will forgive anything, but only if one is sincerely repentant.

Lie #10: It’s too broken.

Dr. Mintle maintains that God can do what humans cannot: change hearts, perform miracles and work in “mysterious ways.” He is the God of possibilities. If you ask Him to intercede to help your marriage, He will.

Attorney Graham Norris and his associates at the Norris Law Group serve the residents of Utah County and throughout Utah in the area of divorce. Contact them today at 801-932-1238 or online for a free consultation.

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